By Drake Mahoney
Listen, most of you don’t want to hear this, but shut up and listen. There is no friend zone. There’s simply no such thing. Friend zone is the thing that guys say when they want to place the blame of their single relationship status on someone else, who in truth doesn’t want to date them. “But she only dates dicks, and then complains to me about it,” you might say to yourself. Glad you mentioned it: it doesn’t matter. You have not been friend zoned, you have been: I only like this person as a friend zoned. It’s not as catchy but it’s a whole hell of a lot less damaging.
Why am I mentioning it? I don’t hate down on their luck bachelors, and I am certainly not here to make them feel worse about what they see as their struggles, but I am here to give this culture of misogyny a scolding. I understand that it hurts when someone doesn’t feel the same way as you do, but that does not mean that that they have made some sort of mistake, or that they have somehow missed the “overwhelmingly obvious fact” that the two of you are meant to be together. The truth of the matter is that women in our culture have enough going against them as it is, and they need to be allowed to date the way that they want, even if they want to date assholes.
Women get scolded for engaging in this “friend zone” thing. People get mad at them, and judge them for not going for the so called nice guy. And don’t get me wrong, I’m sure that he (or you depending on the perspective of the reader) is absolutely lovely, but this simply can’t continue. Women are judged on every little thing, including their appearance, diet, and fashion choice. They can’t be judged on who they date too.